Have you ever been told something that has stuck with you longer than it should have? Were you ever told something repeatedly as a child or even as an adult and it affected you mentally, emotionally or spiritually? Growing up I would hear kids say, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me". Honestly, this couldn't be further from the truth as words hurt more than sticks and stones, their wounds take longer to heal because they cut deep. For years I endured hearing negative things about myself in a hurtful marriage that ended in divorce. Those words affected me and I carried them into my current marriage. I can now say that those words have no power over me, I have been doing the work to ensure that I no longer believe them. How about you?
Words once said can never be taken back, they hurt as they pierce through a person's integrity, their being and mental thoughts to be processed. Once words are taken in and ran through the mind over and over again, the hurt and pain caused by those words begin to set in. That pain is always remembered, those words are now a trigger for a negative emotion and forces the person to do one of two things, accept the words and believe them or reject them and discard them. You may ask why did those words hurt me, who did they come from? Words from family and close friends hurt the worst and they know that those choice words will cause you pain, and these are the words that set root and assert power over you and your life.
Proverbs 18:21 states: death and life are in the power of the tongue. Words can make a person die spiritually and emotionally and make them feel so low and defeated that they don't want to be here naturally. I don't think people truly understand the gravity of how much words truly can kill a person. It is often said that most words fall of deaf ears, lets be totally honest, they don't. People are always listening to hear what other people are saying about them, their family, their friends and even people they don't know.
James 3:8 states: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Alright now people, what does poison do?? Poison is used to kill and destroy!!!! If the tongue is not tamed that is exactly what it will do, destroy and kill the spirit of a person. Once the spirit is destroyed, next is the will, want and procrastination of attaining their purpose in life. Their hope, determination, motivation and encouragement goes right out the door. It may never be regained if the person does not learn how to encourage themselves as David had to do, or if another person who is encouraging and uplifting with words and actions comes into their life to help them see their beauty and wisdom from within.
Proverbs 16:24 states Pleasant words are as honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones. It takes a taming of the tongue and healing of the soul to speak kind words as this is what turns away wrath as Proverbs 15:1 states.
I am better today than I was 10 years ago, it took some work though. I had some amazing people in my corner rooting me on, praying for me and with me. God also removed some people from my life that may have been holding me back from reaching this point. Over the past year, I began to look at myself in the mirror and speak the opposite of all the negativity I had heard. My husband not only confirmed it, he showed me on a daily basis what God sees in me. It takes prayer and work on one's self to overcome the hurtful and disappointing words that have been spoken to them, especially if it happened over a long period of time. Pray that your words are uplifting and encouraging towards people. Ask God to help you ensure that you are a positive influence in other people's lives. You never know how your kind words and actions can draw a person from the brink of depression, being hurtful to other people and even suicide.
Love on someone TODAY!
Blessings
Just Syai
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